Have been exploring replacing alcohol with Kava. Mainstream media seems to be taking a strong disliking to it, but nowadays, that might be a sign of it's true potential.
Good stuff as always! I loved "So you wanna de-bog yourself" so much that I made a GPT based on it. Give it a whirl and see if you can de-bog yourself!
" I recently discussed this with one of my coaches - how for years I’ve wanted a stronger meditation practice, and haven’t gotten there. “Maybe you’re just not ready yet”, he reflected. “You don’t feel the need enough, so you don’t do it. When you want it badly enough, you’ll find it easy to meditate”. "
I've recently been reading Immunity to Change by Kegan and Lahey. Their framework puts forward an alternative explanation for these sorts of situations, namely that you #1 make visible commitments to change (practice meditation), but you #2 keep engaging in behaviours that work against that goal (e.g. not prioritizing meditation), because you have #3 hidden competing commitments, based on #4 unrecognized assumptions. Both the visible and hidden commitments are important to you, and unless you resolve the competition between them, it's difficult to realize change.
" This struck me as profoundly true. The times in my life I’ve made the most change have all been when I felt like change was necessary, not a nice-to-have. "
I would assume that in this situation, you don't have any hidden commitments (your goal was clear and urgent) and so you didn't engage in behaviours that worked against the visible commitment you made. Or at least that's my alternative take based on Kegan and Lahey's work, but I'm only halfway through the book and not a leadership coach, so take it with a grain of salt :D
Have been exploring replacing alcohol with Kava. Mainstream media seems to be taking a strong disliking to it, but nowadays, that might be a sign of it's true potential.
Great post.
Good stuff as always! I loved "So you wanna de-bog yourself" so much that I made a GPT based on it. Give it a whirl and see if you can de-bog yourself!
https://chat.openai.com/g/g-a0rfn9vAq-de-bog-gpt
" I recently discussed this with one of my coaches - how for years I’ve wanted a stronger meditation practice, and haven’t gotten there. “Maybe you’re just not ready yet”, he reflected. “You don’t feel the need enough, so you don’t do it. When you want it badly enough, you’ll find it easy to meditate”. "
I've recently been reading Immunity to Change by Kegan and Lahey. Their framework puts forward an alternative explanation for these sorts of situations, namely that you #1 make visible commitments to change (practice meditation), but you #2 keep engaging in behaviours that work against that goal (e.g. not prioritizing meditation), because you have #3 hidden competing commitments, based on #4 unrecognized assumptions. Both the visible and hidden commitments are important to you, and unless you resolve the competition between them, it's difficult to realize change.
" This struck me as profoundly true. The times in my life I’ve made the most change have all been when I felt like change was necessary, not a nice-to-have. "
I would assume that in this situation, you don't have any hidden commitments (your goal was clear and urgent) and so you didn't engage in behaviours that worked against the visible commitment you made. Or at least that's my alternative take based on Kegan and Lahey's work, but I'm only halfway through the book and not a leadership coach, so take it with a grain of salt :D
Speaking of weird diets, have you heard of the potato diet and/or the croissant diet? Thoughts?